About teens, love, and dating...?

Why do adults always tell teens that it's OK not to be romantically commited just because they're young? They're like, "Oh, don't get married or have serious relationships. You're young, have fun." Is being in a serious relationship thusly not fun? Does being young mean it's OK to be romantically irresponsible? Adults want us to be responsible about drugs and alcohol so why not this too? Teens are just as capable of seriously falling in love.

About teens, love, and dating...?
I agree... but I think it has to do with them not wanting to let you go...





I am in a serious relationship and I'm 19.... funny thing is my dad told me yesterday that he'd be totally fine with me marrying my boyfriend cuz he really likes him...





my mom on the other hand went on the huge rant about how I'm too young and blah blah blah....





realistically, they don't want you to move too fast and make a mistake and they dont wanna let you go...





I think love is a good test to show your responsibilty and maturity. for sure.
Reply:Because most teens aren't ready for a serious relationship as well. They couldn't handle the trauma and drama of going through a serious relationship, financially, emotionally, mentally, whatever. So adults would prefer you to be in 'kiddy' relationships, because all of the above difficulties are of a much lesser extent- you can see what dating and on is about without hurting yourself too much.
Reply:i wondered this too when i was younger. now i think it's because when you seriously commit yourself romantically it leads to marriage (usually), and my guess is that they want you to know yourself and your options before you commit, experience things firsthand. marriage is suppose to be forever, it's a big commitment. so they want you to enjoy everything you possibly can. being in a serious relationship is fun but it goes beyond that, it's feeling comfortable with the person you're with, you get to be yourself.


Sorry if I'm not making sense, i hope this sort of answered you're question.
Reply:I agree that teens are capable of falling in love. My best friend is 34 years old and married. He has been with the same girl since he was 16. So i know it is possible. The reason we adults say you are young wait. Is because there is a lot of the world to see and a lot of things you don't give up but might not be able to do if you are tied down to someone. We don't want you to miss out on life because you think you are in love. I think the message I will try to send to my son and daughter is don't rush through life it is over to quick
Reply:i agree iwth u. I think if they are not going to be serious about dating, they should stay single. i hate when kids go having their fun, b/c people get hurt. and many times, the emotional is way worse than getting drunk or high once. so i think kids should take relationships serious too. If they wanna have fun, dont date.





and also, why even date if ur not going to marry the person? i mean, u could be with that person for yrs and not love them. ANd those are yrs someone canNOT get back. so u just wasted yrs and yrs with someone u wont even talk to for the rest of ur life... so yeah.. i agree take it seriously. because this could be who ur with forever.
Reply:wow thats a really good point!!!


i get that all the time but taking some realationships serious it teaches us for the future.


i guess they dont want us to get hurt by relationships. being in a seriously relationship doesnt mean that you HAVE to have sex.


we are capable of falling in love though we need to be responsible about the chocies that we make while being in the relationship.


xoxox
Reply:It's not that falling in love at a young age is impossible. It's just rare that relationships last, when you're really young.





Adults are only looking out for teens, because most of them have alot of wisdom. Sure, it's possible for two very young people to get together and it last a life time. But does it happen often? No.





It's easy to think you're grown up, but until you're in your twenties...you won't fully understand. Someday, you'll look back and think, "I thought that I knew everything" but really, you were only just beginning.





Alot of young people think that age means nothing. But what they forget to consider is that with time...comes experience and (hopefully) wisdom.





You may think you know alot about life, love, and relationships, but someday, you'll look back and see that it's a lifelong learning experience.





As a teen ager, your brain is still growing and expanding, so you don't always think about the consequences, and think more with your hormones and emotional side.





This is why adults try to slow you down and make you see past what you may think is right and true.
Reply:I take it your a teen.





My guess would be fifteen.
Reply:i'm sure they r just protecting you cuz they luv you %26amp; they dont want anything to seriously happen. it may sound cheezy..but its the truth!
Reply:Adults say that, because they were once romanticly commited at a young age, and maybe the didn't like it. So maybe they don't want you to go through the same thing they did.
Reply:i think they shouldent say that itz better when sumbody is romantic they do it reasponsible way thats why there is alot of single mothers and kids that aint wiht there parents
Reply:they just dont want us to get hurt..that's it..no more question..they just love us..and we shud be thankful of that..
Reply:no not all. my parents started going out in the 10th grade. love is possible at any age. and it was a very serious relationship in high school which is why they stayed together through college. so when people tell me not to be in a relationship at such a young age, i think its bull because how do you know if he's not the one? and besides, even if hes not, its that experience that might lead you to him
Reply:It's not that they are incapable of seriously falling in love, its more about adults caring for teens. They don't want them to make bad decisions.