Why are teens (not all) ignorant when it comes to sex?

What is it with all the questions teens are asking about " I didnt use a condom and Im pregnant how do I tell my parents?" or I didnt where a condom and my girlfreind is pregnant what should I do?" Simple solution protect yourself and you have less of a chance of this happening. Eveyone thinks sex feels good without protection but think about how its going to feel when you end up pregnant or with some nasty desease and AIDS is now number 3 as far as deadliest deases in the world. What is up with all the ignorance and not using common sence ? Teens are obviously going to have sex but why be so ignorant about it and put yourself at risk, sex can be like russain roullett one time and it can kill you!!!!!

Why are teens (not all) ignorant when it comes to sex?
I seen what STD's look like and if some would see that maybe they wouldnt second guess the condom.





As for birth control they need if, if they didnt want the child they need it.





I am one of those ones who has to know if the guy or myself has a std first (and will get tested after every single time I hadd had intercourse)
Reply:Teens listen to all the media hype about how they are going to do it because they can't control their hormones... which you just said too.... "Teens are obviously going to have sex..." Well, that is not true. There are still some who don't.





When people say those things, the real message is that the kids are nothing more than a male dog going after a ***** in heat! And that they have no choice.





We need to teach kids that they have choices in their lives and teach them how to make good choices for themselves.





Even with a condom, sex is like Russian Roulette. Condoms don't protect 100% and in fact, nowhere near it. It is "some" protection, but when it comes to STDs, I pefer to be totally safe. And that means no sex or second best is to have sex only in a monogamous relationship. I say second best because if your partner cheats you still may be exposed.





My observation of many teens today is that they have sex just for the sake of having sex, and multiple partners are now the norm. What do we expect when we tell them there is no God, no right or wrong, morality is all relative, and they are nothing more than animals.... a mammal on the earth.





We tell them they come from apes, and expect them to act better? I personally, think more highly of humanity than that and believe our kids can be so much more and that they do have choices about their behavior.





Best Wishes,





Sue
Reply:okay you cant really accuse all teens ( and when i mean teens i dont mean all teens like you said ) because there is alot of teens that do do it and use protection e.g. condom and birth control pills.. maybe their pregnant or have an std because the pills failed and the condom broke.
Reply:Because few of these kids are looking for answers. Fewer yet are kids.





This place has become just another hangout for people to come to get their jollies off while supposedly sincere, supposedly women come to their aid with all sorts of funs sexual responses.





Try doing some research on them before answering.





Last night for instance, person was all worried because she caught her 12 yr old daughter masturbating, in previous answers she said she was 14. Her questions for the most part had something to sex, and soliciting responses about sex with minors.... so we see a trend here?





So next time someone here says they are 13 and just had sex and think they might be pregnant, answer them as you should, but keep in mind that there is a good chance they are 26 and just had a fantasy about a 13yr old girl and want to see how the world would react if it only came true.
Reply:well thank you for saying not all or me and my friends would be offended. we all have a crush on someone and the person we have a crush on likes us too but we all are going to stay virgins till we are married(the boys too) most teenagers think it is cool I have read some thing where a teen is deciding to stay a virgin but all of his/her friends think it is cool and tell him/her to join in and then since he/she doesn't join he/ she is picked on and all of them are true stories. so like i said they think it is cool
Reply:i so agree with you! maybe it's because they're embarressed with their guy? lol..
Reply:Now, I haven't taken a sex ed class in several years, as I've been out of school for quite awhile, but I seem to remember it as this: we started learning about periods and stuff in 5th grade. (I was in Catholic school, too, and wasn't even aware of what a vagina was until I was 11..) In 6th grade, it was more of the same. Then I moved to another city and started going to public school, and there was a sex ed class where they talked about abstinence, and abusive boyfriends, and how sex is bad, basically. 8th grade was more of the same. In 9th grade, we learned in gym class about the bodily function part of it. That was it. Everything I know about sex I had to learn myself, and some of it was not from reliable sources. I didn't even really understand what sex was until after I lost my virginity. I had a basic idea, but no true understanding of it. It was 11 days before my 14th birthday.





Most sex ed programs in our country's schools are much like the ones I was in when I was in school, and they're not satisfactory. I also didn't have the benefit of normal, understanding parents to talk to me about sex and ways I can protect myself. I lived with my grandparents until right before 7th grade, and they were from the generation where sex was NEVER talked about, and parents NEVER talked to their children about ANYTHING. (Grandma was born in 1912, Grandpa was born in 1917.) My mother is deaf, she was raised by my grandparents, and she has never taken much interest in me (she hadn't wanted me when she got pregnant on accident - her boyfriend convinced her that it was her safe time because he didn't like to wear condoms), so she never talked to me about sex, either. My best friend in 4th grade enlightened me to the fact that penises exist. I knew that sex involved some sort of penis-vagina contact, but that was all. I'm not even sure of when I figured out what condoms were.





Really, the main reason that teens are so ignorant about sex is because their parents aren't taking the time to sit them down and talk to them and explain their own feelings regarding premarital sex and sex during high school. And these days, it'd be best for parents to speak to their children when they're as young as eleven. I plan on talking about sex to my children throughout their lives, explaining the body parts and that boys are different from girls and why, and what I believe sex is (or at least what the idealistic part of me believes sex is), what sex is scientifically, and everything else I can explain. (Of course, I will only give enough information as is appropriate for their age level - but I don't want my kids to be unprepared and clueless like I was.)





Aside from learning from my friends, I learned from the internet, a few years after I had lost my virginity (and one real pregnancy which ended itself, and several scares), and found places like the Vagina Pagina community on LiveJournal. I read The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler, and ***** by Inga Muscio. I've started to wonder why sex ed classes don't tell kids that masturbation is an alternative to sex - a sometimes much more fun one. I've never enjoyed sex with a partner - any of the partners I've been with. I've always enjoyed masturbation. Masturbation is not dirty, and I don't understand why some people feel the need to make it seem so. Abstinence does not always work, because teenagers are going through so many changes with their bodies, and their hormones are completely out of whack, and they're curious, but ... they're usually not enlightened to the dangers of sex. I never heard of condoms or birth control being explained in school until I was accidently put into a Child Development class for a week, which talked about condoms, birth control, and what a baby was doing in a particular week of pregnancy (my counselor was clueless and thought it was a psychology class). So if the only way anyone in my high school was going to hear about condoms and birth control methods is to take an elective class no one really wants to take, of course everyone was clueless! Of course a large portion of the freshman girls my senior year were round and pregnant by the time I graduated!





Our elders, our parents, our teachers - they're failing us, as a generation. We need information to survive in this world, to have futures, and it's being withheld because someone somewhere still perceives sex as something shameful, something dirty, which causes teens to be even more secretive about it, which means they're not using proper protection because they're embarassed.





The best I can do is to impart my knowledge gleaned from years of reading and experience upon the younger portion of my generation, and to make sure my kids know the risks, that they know what sex is, and that they will make sure to keep themselves SAFE. I want to be someone that my kids can go to when they're thinking about having sex, so that they can have the proper tools, whether that means I get my daughters on birth control and give condom lectures or what. (I'd rather they waited until they're out of high school, but they own their bodies, not me, and I'd rather they just made it through school disease- and baby-free.)





I hope this answers your question. (Forgive any typos or weird orders of things - I have a really bad cold and it's making me loopy.)
Reply:because nobody teaches them correctly - theyre parents pussy out and leave it up 2 the school - then the kids cut class 2 go have sex and everyone is literally "******" hahaha
Reply:Exactly teens these days need to understand that if their going to fool around with each other behind their parents backs that using protection whether it's birth control or a condom is a small price to pay compared to getting pregnant and/or getting an STD or AIDS.
Reply:i agree but with some states not properly informing kids about the risks of having unprotected sex and or condom usage this is what the outcome is. i honestly was dumb about sex until i was taught by my nursing teacher my freshmen year in high school. you'd think that with the technology we have today kids would be more informed.





it also goes back to role models like britney spears showing her crotch and lindsay lohan drinking and partying. they say that it's okay to be out there and be promiscuous and if a teen doesn't have a stable home life then of course they're going to be influenced by these women and men.
Reply:Honestly i dont think its being ignorant but its being immature. All you see is sex all u hear about its sex. So they think is ok to have sex. Its not their fault. I think its theri parents fault for not eduacating them about sex.
Reply:Caz the schools don't even teach it right. All they say is, "don't have sex, but if you do, use a condom" all they're telling them is "since your going to anyway..." A condom does not always work, and whether it holds together or not, it does not protect against STDs. So hopefully these horny little devils will get an STD and the cry and moan the rest of their lives about what they did! Then, maybe they'll learn!
Reply:I have wondered that myself! If your goona be active at least know what your doing.
Reply:Teenagers are not renowned for having sound judgement. Everyone knows sex leads to pregnancy (one would hope) but teenagers always think it can't happen to them.





One great book I'm going to use to educate my kids: The Cartoon Guide to Sex by Larry Gronik. Honest, accurate, has great sections with the facts of pregnancy and STDs and making responsible choices.