Why do teens throw their life away?

These days, I hear more and more about teens who are having before they are married and getting pregnant. I think this is sad and disapointing. Me, being a happy teen who doesn't do that and enoys being young and free, can't understand why a young teenager, who has her whole lfe ahead of her, would go out, get pregnant, and screw her life up. A has her whole life to have a baby. It's just one example of how the choices you make affect your life - good or bad. And I mean, and pregnancy is supposed to be a special thing meant for two responsible s who can support a child financially and emotionally. Any insight?

Why do teens throw their life away?
You are correct, pregnancy is a special thing. Unfortunately, the desire to be young and free and therefore making poor decisions thrust teenagers into adult situations. Most teenagers think they are smarter than they really are. However, most will not even realize the mistakes they made as teens until they are adults living with those bad decisions or reflecting on their teenage years. Teenagers need to embrace their youth and enjoy it and not throw it away by making irrational decisions. Most all of, adults need to be better examples to these teenagers.
Reply:i dont want to sound mean but if i do o well!!! im 18 and almost 9 months i dont think we are messing up our live just by having a baby im still in high school and finishing in may have a job and pay for all my stuff i can do just the same things you can in life even if i have a child it is wrong for u to judge people before you even know there situation!!! so think before you say anything else!!! so do u think if a teen gets preg its better to have an abortion cause that is the last thing u want to get me talking about!!!!
Reply:because we just dont care, and life is too depressing not to live a little.
Reply:I agree that babies should, ideally, be born into situations that provide the most security... emotionally and financially. And I also agree that it would be ideal if people would wait until they were in a stable and long-term, committed, loving and responsible relationship before having sex... but as the old saying (by John Lennon) goes "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans".
Reply:Because, they think they really love each other and well it just happens..
Reply:some teens are just irresponsible and hormonal raged so they don't think they just go and have sex most of them are impulsive and don't think about the results of there actions
Reply:For the most part it seems that teens are in a world of their own and have a different mindset. It is a growing process and unfortunately some things are only learned over time. It doesn't mean that all are that way though. Now that I have passed my teen years and will be entering my thirties :) I look back and see the many changes that I have had in my life. I question things that I did back in the day and wonder why I did it. I actually was a teen parent... Pregnant @ 16. It wasn't planned (of course) and I had irresponsible sex... No protection. Even knowing I could get pregnant; however having the mentality that it wouldn't happen to me. Fortunatley I had a good enough head on shoulders to finish school (on-time) and continue my education @ a University graduating in 4 years. Now I have a successful career and family. I married the same guy who I got pregnant by when I was a teen. For me it all worked out; however don't recommend it. I remember in high school girls getting pregnant just because their friend(s) did... I never understood it then and I don't understand it now. It seemed to me that they were playing dolls and dress-up with actual babies w/o realizing the total responsibility of having a a baby. Good for you that you have the right mindset... Enjoy being young while you can :).
Reply:Hell, I don't care. When they are "ruling the world" I'll be in an urn somewhere. They'll be here to deal with their own problems.
Reply:at that age, everyone thinks they are immortal and nothing can hurt them.
Reply:Teenagers think that they know everything. I thought I knew everything too! It is not until you become an adult do you really realize that you should have listened to your parents. Teenagers are IN such a hurry to grow up, and then they realize that being a grown up isn't all that they think it is.. it is hard work.. so I say be a teenager as long as you can, or you can move out, get a job, and pay for your own stuff, including rent, and bills! Good luck!! So that is what I think.. I am a mom now and I apologized to my parents!
Reply:I so agree with you. I made sure when i was 16 years old (11 years ago) when i started having sex with my boyfriend (Now husband) that i got on birth control. I went to the doctor on my own and got on the depo shot. I hate how some people say well how do i tell my mom that i want birth control, my god they can go get on it on their own without mommy's help. People has until in their 40's to have kids so i don't get why the rush.


Yes i had my son at age 21 but he was planned. I am 27 now and not yet have i had another kid. Raising a kid is the hardest job in the world. Why would any teenager want to give their fun/teen years up to raise a kid? I don't get it either.





My mom however had 7 kids and she had my oldest sister when she was 16 and the youngest at age 38. She done really good with us. We didn't do without or anything like that. But that was back in 1973. In those days she said it was no big deal to get pregnant and married at a young age.


When my mom was 21 she had already had three kids whereas me at age 21 i had my first and only kid (So far)


My mom and dad though are the best parents anyone could ask for. My dad has worked since he was 17 in the coal mines and he still works in the coal mines. He always made good money so we didn't go without anything.


Times are different now and teenage girls should be worried about school not changing diapers and getting a ride to a doctor's appointment.
Reply:So amny parents just don't really take the time to set an example and talk to thier kids about building a decent life and being successful and productive. Old fashion values are hard to fine ie: virgin before marriage, buying home before having kids, going to college, etc.
Reply:MOST OF YOU PEOPLE ARE VERY WRONG! NOT EVERY teenager thinks they are immortal. NOT EVERY teenager thinks they don't need to listen to their parents. I just turned 17 in October, and I'am 8 months pregnant. I'm thrilled, and I'm still in school. I'am going to finish school, and I have no reason not to, or no reason to not want to finish school. I'am still with the father, and we are doing great. You people need to learn not to judge people, especially when you don't know everything you think you do. We have alot of support from people that are actually decent (unlike you people). I know that I made the bad choice of having sex before marraige but I DO NOT regret any bit of it. I'm very proud that I'am having a baby. And I know that we are going to be great parents. The teenages who do make that choice will face the responsibility of either takin care of what they made, or giving their child a better place to live. And for your information, MOST of the teens that do get pregnant as teen, also get married before they get pregnant, or afterwards. And their lives turn out just fine. So DO NOT say that teenagers RUIN their lives, from being teen parents! I DON'T BELIEVE THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT IN THE WORLD LIKE YOU PEOPLE...
Reply:Many teens aren't as responsible and intelligent as you are-you have a good head on your shoulders!!! I think many who throw their lives away are ignored at home and the teens want someone to show them love either by having sex or by having a baby. It is a very sad choice! While having children is the best thing in the world, it isn't that smart of a choice and really not fair to the child to be pregnant at 13,14,15,16,17. I feel really bad for them sometimes but, other times they could of prevented it but, didn't . The scary part is that they don't even stop to think about protection either, they could end of with a deadly disease and they don't seem to care.
Reply:Because girls fall for the "if you REALLY love me you will" line, instead of telling the guy "If YOU really loved me you wouldn't ask me to.". And kicking him to the curb. They are so DESPERATE to have a boyfriend that they are willing to give up all of their hopes, dreams, and aspirations for a few months with some dickwad who's only goal is to jump her bones before he dumps her. And I agree it IS sad when in this day and age there is so much MORE for women than being a receptical for a man's sperm.
Reply:Ok I am a young mom I am 19 and have a wonderful lil 2 year old girl...It didnt screw up my life. And being pregnant and having her were miracles to me. I am very respnsible I graduated with my class with a 4.0 so dont say thigs til you KNOW everyone which you never will know all teen moms and what they do in life. There are some irresponsible ones out there belive me i know. My mom was a teen mom too and she is the CEO of her company, and has her Masters degree. I work full time 40 plus hours a week and her father (who i am still with and have been for 4 years) just graduated from college. We have a bright future together with our daughter and are both mature responsible adults. I think that you need to be mature and realize that just because your young doesnt mean that it wasnt a special thing to us. We are well off financially and emotionally. Oh and by the way most young moms have usually been sexually abused and this leads to looking for male affirmation seeking "love" or sexual activity at a young age. Dont blame us blame petifiles or rapist and molesters who roam the streets for the high % rate of teen pregnancies.