Does anybody have any teens with babies? And how are they coping with it?

I submitted a question not so long ago asking if anybody thought there should be more support for teen parents.So this is like a follow on question, to get opinions from people who actually have teens with kids.Or better still from the teens themselves.I would be interested to hear how you cope and even if your finding it difficult.

Does anybody have any teens with babies? And how are they coping with it?
my daughter is 14 and got a 6 week old baby boy wasn't very happy when we found out its any mums night mare that you find out that your 14 year old is 22 weeks pregnant before i start getting loads of e mails that's what i got last time saying that im a no good mum not being open with her she lives with her dad had been for a year before she got pregnant, coming to me at weekends,i don't condone that she was having sex at that age but living with dad all week i couldn't keep an eye on her as much as i wanted, she went 52 hours of labour which i don't think many older females would want to do, had so many stitches that we lost count I'm so proud of her she copes wonderful with him and the dad the pair of them are so good, sometimes we make mistakes in our lives but things are here to try us. i love my daughter even more for being a good mum. People think just because you a young mum your a slag, but not the case and teens cant cope with being a mum well my daughter has proved us all wrong.
Reply:Well I am 14 going on 15 and I am pregnant with twins,sometimes I get very angry and go crazy,but knowing that I am going to have daughters make me happy,even though it is very painful.
Reply:I was a teen myself with a baby, and yes it`s very hard - even with help - coz at the end of the day you`re the one that`s gonna be up most of the night feeding etc. Nobody is gonna give up a good night`s sleep to take baby off your hands, and if they do it will be once a blue moon. God it`s the hardest thing in the world i think. I only remember being sooooo tired. Looking after a baby at any age is hard work, but as a teen you feel missing out on so much - and that`s coz you are.
Reply:I had four children by the time I was 17. Triplets at 15, and another at 17. All of them have the same father and now I am married to him. I'm now 19. I model, sing, and so does my husband. We live on a lake in a tiny house, and we are doing well.





When I told my mom I was pregnant the first time, she kicked me out, and so did Blaze's parents. (Blaze is my husband. He's 20 now.) We raised all 4 of our children on our own. I haven't had contact with my mom in 4 years. Actually, we haven't had contact with any of our families in the past 4 years.
Reply:i dont have kids bt my cousin was a teen parent, she went off the rails when she was younger but after having her child she has turned her life around, she is a great mother and such a better person to be around!!
Reply:I fostered teen mum and newborn baby - she found it very difficult and the line we took was 'don't set her up to fail'. If she needed time out we looked after the baby etc...I got up in the night all the time with the baby until Mum had recovered physically from birth and then did it together etc. She has now moved on and seems to be getting on well though I don't think she would be anywhere near living independently with the baby yet. Just so other teens don't think it's a great hunky dory idea - she totally regretted not waiting - she has had to give up so much really, even with lots of support.
Reply:i was a teen mum - 18 her dad was barley 17 we are now 24 and 23. it was hard and we was so young and broke up but we both worked hard and payed fopr childcare and she has never wanted for anything i dont feel i could of been a better mummy if i was older. we are both parents to her and she has step parents that love her too.
Reply:I was 18 when I had my child. I lived with my parents and was single.


I actually took total care of my baby myself. and my parents would agree with that. It was dificult at times. but I did not want anyone eles taking care of my baby. I think I was a pretty good mother. My parents were crazy about him, and I think they actually would have liked it if I was more dependent on them.


Not all teens are going to give the baby care over to their own parents. Some are quite responsible and very bonded to their babys. I was one.


I just wish I would have had it all more together financially ect. for him, before he came along. As an infant, they really dont care about those things, but time goes by quickly.


I think parents of teen parents, need to remember that they are the grandparents, not the parents or secondary parents.


know when not to over step those boundarys.


btw. now my baby is a teen, not a parent yet. And hope he can get his life in order, a career, choose a good spouse wait a few years to become a parent.


But if it were to happen, I would love the baby just as much.


And just be the best grandma I could be.


And yes, I realize some kids are just totally irresponsible and cannot handle a baby. but just dont want folks to assume that all teens would be like that.
Reply:I don't have children but I'm going to answer based on what my parents have told me about my brother and his child or children...





My brother got his gf pregnant when he was 18 she was 21. My dad left the house and went for a very long motorcycle ride. that's how he deals with it. he clears his head on the bike.


My mom was thrilled because that meant a new baby in the family and I was just laughing because my brother was the screw up not me!


My dad still wont be called grandpa. He's Pops.


Anytime now there's another child due however there's an issue of who's the father with that one...so no one has said much.





I guess this doesn't really help since my bro was an adult when the first was conceived anyways.





I think it all depends the class you're at. People low in society ratings don't care. High class money movers often freak out and people in the middle just deal with it.
Reply:Im 19.. and pregnant... but i havent had to "cope" with it yet. I live with my boyfriend and his parents but we are the only ones who know about our baby so far... Im trying to sympathize with how my mom will feel when i tell her... im sure she will be initally shocked and upset but i feel that once she gets over the shock everyone should be happy because a baby is somethign joyous... im sure u are referring to younger teens, but i feel that no matter what age you screwed up at, everyone should pull together to help make the babys life the best it can be.

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