Questions for teens and parents?

Do you ever feel that your parents don't give good advice? Do you feel that your son or daughter doesn't listen to your advice?


Please go to this survey and answer the questions. The researcher is trying to compile a book on the advice that teens want to hear from their parents, rather than the advice parents "should be giving" their teens.


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Questions for teens and parents?
i dont have a mom but my dad gives terrible addvice....when i told him that my best friend is acutally my girlfriend he went on a rant about how i shouldnt be doing anything sexual with anyone when i already knew that and it was just annoying...
Reply:My parents did not give good advice. There was a lot of 'because I said so' and 'youre gonna go to hell if you do that' and so forth.





I think the biggest things are sex and drugs. Parents need to educate their children accuratly about sex at an early age. Body parts should be called by the appropriate names when learning and during discussion. For example a vagina and penis are a vagina and penis, not a whispered 'down there'. Parents need to have open communication about all sexuality. If the parents dont educate properly they will most likely be fed inaccurate info from the friends who dont know anymore than they do. I understand parents dont want kids having sex, but wouldnt you rather them have correct information instead of thinking 'oh well we dont have to use a condom bc if Im on top I cant get prenant'.





And about drugs. If you dont want the kids to drink, then dont get drunk in front of them showing how good it must feel. If you dont want them to smoke cigs, dont be puffin up a storm while you are telling them how wrong and how bad it is. If you dont want them to smoke pot, talk to them about it. Know that drug usage has went up a lot with rx meds. Make sure they know that just bc it is an rx doesnt make it safe.





Dont yell and scream when they tell you they are doing something you dont allow. The fact that they have come to you shows they value what you say even though they are doing something wrong and want your help. If you start yelling and screaming and punishing and hell talk, it will make them not want to be honest anymore.





Eventually parents have to just let go and hope that their children make the right decisions. And when an adult child makes a mistake it is not the parent's fault, nor do the parents have the right to sit and go on and yell and scream. I made a mistake 3 years ago not too long after moving out of state and my mom still wont let go of it.
Reply:I am a child counsler and work with teens on a daily basis.


My father inspired me to take on this profession. He hated it, however I enjoy it. I feel like I am helping these kids.





Everyday I try and try to give these kids the best advice that I can. Somedays it's hard because I can barely even make it through my own day and give myself my own advice. Truthfully, I feel that your attitude is the key to helping others.


If I go to work with a negative attitude and act as if I have low self-asteem then that is how they will think they will end up when the truth is even the biggest rebels can become better than I myself.


I helped and am still currentley helping raise my nieces and nephews. My nieces are fifteen yrs old and twelve and my nephews are twenty-one and seventeen. I feel a lot of times they don't listen to me at all. It's hard because their parents (my sister and brother-in-law) could care a less about their own beautiful kids. Often I will even look at them as my own children. The best advice I have given them and is so far working is to stay in school!!! I have several friends who dropped out and ended up going back for their GED. Now, a days it's hard enough finding a decent job with a high school diploma let alone a GED.





Good luck!!





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Reply:parents were teens so long ago they don't know what it's like to be a teen today.
Reply:oooooook~!