Why do people at YA are always against teens in issues with their parents?

Many teens have asked questions about issues with their parents. Sometimes sseriuos issues, sometimes light ones. But in almost all cases people here (except other teens) side with the parents. Even when it's clear that the parents messed up or were unfair, people always try to find excuses, saying things like kids don't come with instructions, being a parent is the most difficult job ever, your parents are human being, and so on. But when kids mess up people her try to make them feel bad, that they got fair punishments, have to get over their resentment, apologize, etc. I think most people do that because they are afraid of turning kids against their parents, or of giving them more arguments against their parents. Others simply don't like teens, though they were teens in the past. Anyway, my conclusion is YA is not a good place for teens to get advice about problems with their parents, because most answers will make them evn more depressed or angry. Am I right?

Why do people at YA are always against teens in issues with their parents?
you are young, ignorant and blind, just like most people your age. the "issues" with the parents are really issues with the kids. kids are not supposed to be in control of their parents, but rather the parents in control of the kids. yes parents make mistakes sometimes, and that is not right. but for a kid to complain about how bad their parents are is wrong. and the "mistakes" that the kids make (like getting pregnant, etc) are choices that their parents have (most likely) tried to teach them not to make. a kid should feel bad about such things.





I do agree that YA is not a good place for teens to hang out. most of the ones on here ask very stupid questions, can't spell, and get rude to adults.





yes I am a teen myself, I am 17. but because my parents were never around I had to raise my 2 younger siblings in their place. I have some understanding of what it is like to be a parent. and if teens would get over themselves and listen to their parents, we would not have so many problems with teens today.
Reply:I think most people who end up siding with parents think back to when they were teens and what their parents would have done in the same situation. Most of us had the same arguements and in the end our parents ended up right.





They are right when they say that kids don't come with instructions, being a parent is a hard job, we're only human and everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes parents just get upset because you were told something in hopes that you wouldn' t make the same mistakes that they did. Then, when you go ahead and do it, they are upset.
Reply:I'm not trying to be disrespectful here but you are only 14. You don't know what it's like to have children and to worry about them constantly. It's easy for you to judge from where you stand because you haven't been there yet. In time you will understand. At least you seem like an intelligent person and try to reason with the questions. You're ahead of the game already. When you get older you'll understand more.
Reply:Yeah, I wouldn't be 15 again for anything, or the parent of a 15 year old either.


The reason we seem to go against teens is that we have the benefit of seeing both sides not just seeing we have actually lived both sides. We do remember the trouble, the misery of school, the difficulty of teachers and bullies and trying to be in style and wanting more freedom.


As parents we know what happens when the desires for freedom outstrips the judgment, the difficulty of getting into a college when you have lousy marks, the problem of a dead end job when you don't have that degree. Those are real to us and illusory to you.


As parents we wish we could do better lots of time, its pretty scary being responsible for a teen who want us out their lives, whats enough, whats too little?


If you look on any group of Best Answers, you will find that even if the information is flat out wrong, the person will choose as Best Answer what they want to hear in the first place. I don't think YA will make them worse, even though you only want validation for your feelings, it does help to see another perspective.


Even if I don't get BA.
Reply:looking for answers online from strangers is not the best place to find answers . . if you are depressed or angry seek help from your parents . . the best thing you can do whether you agree with them or not is to talk to them . . let them know how you are feeling and let them tell you how they are feeling . .
Reply:Age brings a certain wisdom that teenagers lack. Hindsight is always 20/20 and many of us realize that parents pick and chose their battles, and are only ever looking out for out best interest.





It has only been a couple years since I was a teenager and am not a mother myself, however I quarreled with my own mother often. Part of being a teenager is being arrogant, thinking you can get away with things, thinking you are entitled to other thingst. Parents are usually trying to prepare their children for the real world. Not everything comes easy, and things rarely go you own way. It is an important lesson in life.





The reason why so many disagree with the teens is out of maturity and wisdom. I realize this isn't the best place obtain affirmation when you are a teenager, because to put this politely, teenagers are often misguided.
Reply:Look the problem is this forum is for parents to advise other parents on how to raise teenagers, or for anyone to advise in the parenting of teenagers. People side with the parents because they know better. I am 19 years old. I side with the parents usually becuase teenagers these days are little brats who cant follow simple rules and get the idea that they dont run the show.
Reply:Okay, you say you're almost 15. Print out your question and read it again when you're 40. I bet you laugh.
Reply:ur right n its not about all young ppl seein things like that...i actually believe that teens do see things from both sides but older ppl, like u said, refuse to admit that they're wrong. I dont kno what thats about cus when thos teens r askin their questions sometimes they admit they were wrong but i guess ppl just dont see that.
Reply:come on dude... when we are young we see things differently!!! i am 20 and i started realising it now...parents are not always right but they are 99% of the times right!!!
Reply:you feel this way probably because you are 15 and you expect us (strangers) to tell you what you want to hear. remember we don't know you we are only telling our opinion which is what you came here to ask for in the first place. so if you feel depress speak to your parents and a proffessional. at the age you are in it is normal to feel the way you feel.
Reply:I am not in agreement with you.





I think YA is a good place to start getting an idea of what to do; as a matter of fact, many of us get situations resolved here in YA.





I think that if you expose your situation/question clear, your answer/response will come, clear enough to the best of our knowledge. NOW whether is the answer that you "may" want to hear ... or not... or would like to hear or not, “that is a different story”.





Sometimes we would like to hear something, but reality brings up a completely different picture.





Now will you give thumbs up to what you want to hear – even if it is wrong- or what is RIGHT?





That is in most cases what happens in YA.


We get the clear picture… is impartial whether we LIKE it or NOT.





Some responses are just "silly" but, others are very GOOD. Is for you to judge, and pick and choose, use and have common sense. .. .





PLease GO... and click at the link... below


PARENTS CARE AND LOVE... GO AND CLICK....


... someone ask a "similar" question... see what was my response to her...





http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...





Good luck... ;-)





As a parent. .when I made a booboo, I mess up . I apologize to my kids. They did they same with me. My kids are 27 and 23 now ; both married . .. ;-)
Reply:I think you are young and most youngsters will see things the way you do. When you are an adult and know better, their advice will make more sense.





Sorry.