Why do most teens want to turn to suicide?

The teens these days are in soo much stress. And everything seems to go wrong in their lives. Why do they have to turn to suicide? I have been there several times in my life. And I have even ploted my death. All the way up to the burial and the death notices for the newspapers. But suddenly out of the blue, something snapped in my head and I changed my mind. I don't know how or why.. But I put down everything and just stopped. That was a miracle to say the least.


How can we help those teens feel better about themselves instead of turning to the bad parts of life.??

Why do most teens want to turn to suicide?
Listen...that's the biggest thing, I think, is to just listen.Don't belittle our teens...to them their problems are just as big as ours.Know what our kids our doing,and always let home be the safest place to be.Love them no matter what and always speak the words I LOVE YOU!♥
Reply:I don't really believe "MOST" teens turn to suicide, we would have dead teens all over the mall.





There are many problems that face teens such as puberty and questions about who they really are. And these questions and problems occur at a time in life where the person is unskilled in handling problems, the hormone rushes, and questions about what and who they will be





how to help? Be there for them, care, but don't rescue them from all of the problems, with daring to deal with problems, comes self confidence and self esteem.





you have already experienced a positive change by making a mature decision not to harm yourself. now go tell a friend, and be proud.
Reply:well, a lot of teen turn 2 suicide cause they think thats the only way 2 solve what they r feeling or what they been trough. they feel like they have no other choise. like if they kill them self they will feel no more pain. (have been through it)
Reply:when you plan everything out it makes you feel better to know that everything will go as you wish. There by bringing you out of the bottom just enough to "snap out of it". How ever most people just don't care and will give into it and say that others will know what to do.





but you are lucky to be able to focus on it so much that you lose interest in it.
Reply:Teens are forced into the fast-paced lives they live faster than they would've meant to be in that situation. Teens take their peers way too seriously. Too many stop eating, get depressed, and cut themselves, all over some other kid just because he/she is popular and has hurt them in some way. If you compare this to an adult's life, it is completely out of proportion.





I know that it is a huge thing to fit in. It isn't easy to be forsaken and excluded from the groups at school, but no peer's opinion is worth your life. If they don't take you seriously, you shouldn't take them seriously. I remember in school that the kids would do anything the popular people tell them to do. This is sad because the popular kids don't really care about the safety or well-being of anyone else. It is just so odd to watch kids bend over backwards for some random peer.





As well, dating while in your teens just wasn't meant to be. That is why, emotionally, teens get so depressed from things that happen during "relationships." The teen years should be devoted to learning. Dating should not be engaged in unless you are ready to get married, nor should it be a temporary thing. That is where the depression starts. I mean, if neither kid is able to get married, due to age or not having a job, why the dating? It's pointless, and makes something so complex, such as a person's feelings, merely a form of recreation or a "game," as most of the guys call it. No, people aren't a "game," and gaining someone's affection shouldn't be considered such, either.





Teens get depressed because they do not realize the magnitude of getting involved with someone. It isn't ever meant to be a one-week thing. As well, they take things such as clothing and popularity way too seriously. Adults only worry about money and providing, and really, that is the most important thing.
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Most teens interviewed after making a suicide attempt say that they did it because they were trying to escape from a situation that seemed impossible to deal with or to get relief from really bad thoughts or feelings. Like Ethan, they didn’t want to die as much as they wanted to escape from what was going on. And at that particular moment dying seemed like the only way out.





Some people who end their lives or attempt suicide might be trying to escape feelings of rejection, hurt, or loss. Others might be angry, ashamed, or guilty about something. Some people may be worried about disappointing friends or family members. And some may feel unwanted, unloved, victimized, or like they’re a burden to others.





We all feel overwhelmed by difficult emotions or situations sometimes. But most people get through it or can put their problems in perspective and find a way to carry on with determination and hope. So why does one person try suicide when another person in the same tough situation does not? What makes some people more resilient (better able to deal with life’s setbacks and difficulties) than others? What makes a person unable to see another way out of a bad situation besides ending his or her life?





The answer to those questions lies in the fact that most people who commit suicide have depression.





Depression


Depression leads people to focus mostly on failures and disappointments, to emphasize the negative side of their situations, and to downplay their own capabilities or worth. Someone with severe depression is unable to see the possibility of a good outcome and may believe they will never be happy or things will never go right for them again.





Depression affects a person’s thoughts in such a way that the person doesn’t see when a problem can be overcome. It’s as if the depression puts a filter on the person’s thinking that distorts things. That’s why depressed people don’t realize that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem in the same way that other people do. A teen with depression may feel like there’s no other way out of problems, no other escape from emotional pain, or no other way to communicate their desperate unhappiness.








Sometimes people who feel suicidal may not even realize they are depressed. They are unaware that it is the depression — not the situation — that’s influencing them to see things in a “there’s no way out,” “it will never get better,” “there’s nothing I can do” kind of way.





When depression lifts because a person gets the proper therapy or treatment, the distorted thinking is cleared. The person can find pleasure, energy, and hope again. But while someone is seriously depressed, suicidal thinking is a real concern.





People with a condition called bipolar disorder are also more at risk for suicide because their condition can cause them to go through times when they are extremely depressed as well as times when they have abnormally high or frantic energy (called mania or manic). Both of these extreme phases of bipolar disorder affect and distort a person’s mood, outlook, and judgment. For people with this condition, it can be a challenge to keep problems in perspective and act with good judgment.





Substance Abuse


Teens with alcohol and drug problems are also more at risk for suicidal thinking and behavior. Alcohol and some drugs have depressive effects on the brain. Misuse of these substances can bring on serious depression. That’s especially true for some teens who already have a tendency to depression because of their biology, family history, or other life stressors.





The problem can be made worse because many people who are depressed turn to alcohol or drugs as an escape. But they may not realize that the depressive effects alcohol and drugs have on the brain can actually intensify depression in the long run.





In addition to their depressive effects, alcohol and drugs alter a person's judgment. They interfere with the ability to assess risk, make good choices, and think of solutions to problems. Many suicide attempts occur when a person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs.





This doesn’t mean that everyone who is depressed or who has an alcohol or drug problem will try to kill themselves, of course. But these conditions — especially both together — increase a person’s risk for suicide.





Suicide Is Not Always Planned


Sometimes a depressed person plans a suicide in advance. Many times, though, suicide attempts happen impulsively, in a moment of feeling desperately upset. A situation like a breakup, a big fight with a parent, an unintended pregnancy, being outed by someone else, or being victimized in any way can cause someone to feel desperately upset. Often, a situation like this, on top of an existing depression, acts like the final straw.








Some people who attempt suicide mean to die and some don't. For some, a suicide attempt is a way to express deep emotional pain. They can’t say how they feel, so, for them, attempting suicide feels like the only way to get their message across. Sadly, even when a suicide attempt is a cry for help and the person doesn’t mean to die, there’s no way to control it. Many people who really didn’t mean to kill themselves end up dead or critically ill.





Warning Signs


There are often signs that someone may be thinking about or planning a suicide attempt. Here are some of them:





talking about suicide or death in general


talking about "going away"


referring to things they "won’t be needing," and giving away possessions


talking about feeling hopeless or feeling guilty


pulling away from friends or family and losing the desire to go out


having no desire to take part in favorite things or activities


having trouble concentrating or thinking clearly


experiencing changes in eating or sleeping habits


engaging in self-destructive behavior (drinking alcohol, taking drugs, or cutting, for example)


What if This Is You?


If you have been thinking about suicide, get help right away. Depression is powerful. You can’t wait and hope that your mood might improve. When a person has been feeling down for a long time, it's hard to step back and be objective.





Talk to someone you trust as soon as you can. If you can’t talk to a parent, talk to a coach, a relative, a school counselor, a religious leader, or a teacher. Call a suicide crisis line (such as 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-999-9999) or your local emergency number (911). These toll-free lines are staffed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week by trained professionals who can help you without ever knowing your name or seeing your face. All calls are confidential — no one you know will find out that you've called. They are there to help you figure out how to work through tough situations.





What if It’s Someone You Know?


It is always a good thing to start a conversation with someone you think may be considering suicide. It allows you to get help for the person, and just talking about it may help the person to feel less alone and more cared about and understood.





Talking things through may also give the person an opportunity to consider other solutions to problems. Most of the time, people who are considering suicide are willing to talk if someone asks them out of concern and care. Because people who are depressed are not as able to see answers as well as others, it can help to have someone work with them in coming up with at least one other way out of a bad situation.





Even if a friend or classmate swears you to secrecy, you must get help as soon as possible — your friend's life could depend on it. Someone who is seriously thinking about suicide may have sunk so deeply into an emotional hole that the person could be unable to recognize that he or she needs help. Tell an adult you trust as soon as possible.





If necessary, you can also call the toll-free number for a suicide crisis line or a local emergency number (911). You can find local suicide crisis or hotline numbers listed in your phone book or check out the ones listed in the resources tab. These are confidential resources and the people at any of these places are happy to talk to you to help you figure out what is best to do.





Sometimes, teens who make a suicide attempt — or who die as a result of suicide — seem to give no clue beforehand. This can leave loved ones feeling not only grief stricken but guilty and wondering if they missed something. It is important for family members and friends of those who die by suicide to know that sometimes there is no warning and they should not blame themselves.





When someone dies by suicide the people who knew them can be left with a terrible emotional pain. Teens who have had a recent loss or crisis or who had a family member or classmate who committed suicide may be especially vulnerable to suicidal thinking and behavior themselves. If you’ve been close to someone who has attempted or committed suicide, it can help to talk with a therapist or counselor — someone who is trained in dealing with this complex issue. Or, you could join a group for survivors where you can share your feelings and get the support of people who have been in the same situation as you.





Coping With Problems


Being a teen is not easy. There are many new social, academic, and personal pressures. And for teens who have additional problems to deal with, such as living in violent or abusive environments, life can feel even more difficult.








Some teens worry about sexuality and relationships, wondering if their feelings and attractions are normal, or if they will be loved and accepted. Others struggle with body image and eating problems; trying to reach an impossible ideal leaves them feeling bad about themselves. Some teens have learning problems or attention problems that make it hard for them to succeed in school. They may feel disappointed in themselves or feel they are a disappointment to others.





These problems can be difficult and draining — and can lead to depression if they go on too long without relief or support. We all struggle with painful problems and events at times. How do people get through it without becoming depressed? Part of it is staying connected to family, friends, school, faith, and other support networks. People are better able to deal with tough circumstances when they have at least one person who believes in them, wants the best for them, and in whom they can confide. People also cope better when they keep in mind that most problems are temporary and can be overcome.





When struggling with problems, it helps to:





Tell someone you trust what’s going on with you.


Be around people who are caring and positive.


Ask someone to help you figure out what to do about a problem you’re facing.


Work with a therapist or counselor if problems are getting you down and depressed — or if you don't have a strong support network, or feel you can’t cope.


Counselors and therapists can provide emotional support and can help teens build their own coping skills for dealing with problems. It can also help to join a support network for people who are going through the same problems — for example, anorexia and body image issues, living with an alcoholic family member, or sexuality and sexual health concerns. These groups can help provide a caring environment where you can talk through problems with people who share your concerns. Check out your phone book to find local support groups, or ask a school counselor or a youth group leader to help you find what you need.
Reply:well most teens are selfish and self centered as well as self absorbed and suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do so to me it makes sense that teens would do this
Reply:Because they don't know how to cope with stress. I say the best way to help them would be to teach them how to cope with life, and teach them stress relievers....
Reply:Dear person you are still too upset. The question has an error as only some teens do suicide. Suicide is group murder. Remember you have a right to live even though you have difficulties. Depression is all about friends and family and you need to be safe in a safe place to get your head straightened out. It is fair to say that the outsiders need to help each other because in so doing they will learn what life skills they really need.
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Reply:They need to realize that there is more to life than just the here and now.
Reply:They won't actually commite suicide, they are just under a ton of stress and maybe want some attention.
Reply:We live in a very competitive culture, based upon success or popularity. A clique if you will and we strive to be an accepted member of that culture. In most cases, there are only so many people that get accepted into those little groups, and those that don't fit the mold so to speak, are often ridiculed for being different.





Cults or groups are much the same in their acceptance or rejection by the rest of the population. Children strive to be like a peer, somebody they look up to and idol. All to often we fall short of the expectations we hope for and find ourselves in a spiral ling emotion of feelings.





We seem to think and sometimes even believe that we are not fitting in, and would be better off out of the scene, when in essence, the answer is to be yourself and find new friends that share the same interests that we do. It may be hard to leave what we thought were friends behind while we venture out with a new found group, but in the end it usually works out for the better.





The best defense is a good offense, and with that in mind, our best defense is the ability we all have to strive for ourselves, and set the standards we feel most comfortable with.
Reply:lets see, peer pressure, the pressure to suceed at what you are doing, pressure pressure pressure. its something that everyone had, but i think more teens turn to suicide because they dont know how to deal with it and think if they die, it will all go away. maybe if there wasnent so much pressure in todays society, we would have less suicides. the pressures to look as good as the people you see on tv, people making fun of the way other people look, and as you get older, it doesnt go away, maybe if we started to teach kids from a young age to love themselves no matter what and to love everyone else no matter what, then everyone would be happier. but with so much discrimination in this world, that probably wont happen for a long long time. at least until someone invents some way to recreate humanity and make everyone the same and raise them in test tubes until they can survive on their own.
Reply:What Hope for Today's Youths? :


... The Tragedy of Youthful Deaths


... Suicide - A Scourge of Young People


... When Hope %26amp; Love Vanish


... When Hope %26amp; Love Return


... Motivations for Suicide %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;


... Some Indicators of Suicide --


http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998...





A Cry for Help


...... Soon a World Without Despair


http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2000...





Life in a Peaceful New World


http://www.watchtower.org/library/t15/pe...





The Bible--A Textbook for Living :


... Cherished and Suppressed


... A Textbook for the Living :


...... A Book That Gives Purpose %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;


...... Adding Stability to a Troubled Life %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;


...... Help in Overcoming Emotional Problems %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;


...... Practical Counsel on Family Life %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;


...... Counsel That Endures %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;


http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2000...





If you really want to know what the only long-lasting answer to this problem is, I suggest you check out the above Bible-based articles, along with the Scriptures referenced.





Sincerely,


"Make Sure of All things; Hold Fast to what is Fine!"


1 Thessalonians 5:21
Reply:i have also been through the thoughts of


but i don't know why teens want to be suicidal


i think that they think it is the only choice


and the easier choice


but to be quite honest....


i think its just their raging hormones.


if we put better psychiatrists or counselors in the schools


and maybe didn't load up the students so much with too much homework


then maybe they wouldn't have to turn to


i want to become a psychiatrist to help this problem


so i really want to know what people think


please email me when you have found a good answer
Reply:i used to be like that too until i went to counseling and got on some medacation. maybe that could help those people. it really helped me.

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