Teens and sex?

ok teens I'm a mom of four boys. My oldest will be 11 in a couple of weeks. I want to have a clue so I'm going to the horses mouth. At what age now days is sex a common subject among peers? How old were you when you and your friends started talking about "it"?

Teens and sex?
Kids start talking about it from the ages of 9ish upwards. I remember at Primary school we'd talk about it and giggle. I think some of the children at school had older brothers and sisters who told them about it.





From 12 upwards children start to think about it a lot more. People start getting boy friends and girl friends and having their first kiss. It's still a bit of a 'funny' word at this age.





When you get to about 14-15ish it starts becoming more serious. Puberty has begun and emotions are all over the place. There are 13 year olds that have sex.





The average age of losing your virginity is probably about 16-18years old. Many lose it before or after that age though.








If I was you, I'd make sure sex is a very open topic in your house hold. My Mum never spoke about sex with me or my brother and if I had any concerns, she would be the LAST person I would talk to. I'm sure you don't want that with your children! Offer to always been there for a chat, offer protection when they need it and provide all the facts about this risks of pregnancy, STDs etc. I think it's much better to be open about it than to hide it. I would also rather that my children learned about sex from an adult, rather than their misinformed friends!!





You sound like your family has good morals so hopefully this will show in all your sons and they will value sex and wait until they're ready!!





P.S. I have a mac too!!
Reply:Hey mom they are talking about it in the 3rd and fourth grade. They are acting on it in the 6 and 7th grade. Keep tabs on the computer. Porn is everywhere and your kids probably know more about sex then you do. It's glamorized on the web. Girls look at it as a career choice. Be careful, never assume your kids are saints.
Reply:Gosh, we were trying to figure out what it is since the second grade. I think we became interested in it around 6th grade, some people have sex in 7th and 8th. I was just curious about it then. I lost it when I was 15. I would go ahead and talk to your son about it. I would just say, "I know that you know what sex is, but are you confused about anything? I don't approve of you having sex, but I want you to come to me before deciding to have sex with a girl. I will buy you condoms anytime if you ever need them." Also I would let him check out this website, www.teenwire.com , it is run by the chart teen task force. They give the real facts about sex, puberty, teenage relationships etc. Its not a pro-life, and it doesn't tell kids to wait until marriage to have sex. I hope this helped =)
Reply:I learned about sex when I was eight because I found a used condom on the beach, and my brother had to explain to me what it was. PLEASE don't let your kids find out that way, I'm sad I didn't have a better understanding at first.





Personally, I think it's best to talk to kids about sex before they hit pueberty, and start experiencing sexual things (wet dreams, etc..) This way, they aren't embarrassed as much when you start to talk about it. Because they REALLY have no idea.





My brother talked to his kid about it and he's 4. I think that's great. My mom tried to talk to me about it when I was 13. I laughed at her.
Reply:My friends talked about "it" since we were about 9...but only because we grew up with older kids around us all the time. I didn't do "it" till i was 15.
Reply:i am 20 so it wasnt to long ago that i was in school and you probably wont want to hear this but a few of my friends started having sex around 12-13 i know thats young i myself waited longer and have only been with my husband we just had our 1st child and so i am scared of when she hits that age. i think if you are a god parent andbtalk to your boys and mae sure they totally understand everything that comes with having sex they will be ok most of my friends had the cool parents who never really talked about it and i had th eparents that were always right on top of discussing things and i think if it wasnt for that i probably wouldnt have waited so long. i hope this helps.
Reply:my mom gave "the talk" at about 9 i started really getting to find out diff. stuff about at 11-12 and it made me really curious to know what else there was to find out about it.
Reply:Kids start talking about "it" as soon as they learn of "it". I remember being about 7 or 8 and one of my friends asked me if I knew how babies were made. It's an intriguing topic, so they'll speak up as soon as it's known.





Your son, at 11, already hadspeers (some of whom, I'm sure, are his friends) that talk about sex often.
Reply:I myself was older, 19 but my little cousin whos just 12 already lost her virginity which is nuts but yeah, with boys i always here they are active quicker good luck!
Reply:most people at my school started at the end of 7th grade or the begining of 8th and now in 9th grade there are like 4 girls pregnant, n one of them is my friend =(


in 6th grade we started hearing about it but no one really cared, then in 9th we started getting way too many details, n last year (8th) some people also started talking about


drugs =(
Reply:well, i started 12 or 13 i think but i started kinda late. but be careful some kids start having sex at age 12 and 13, so i would imagine they styart talking about it at 11.
Reply:lol, i knew bout sex wen i was jus 7, i memba coz i had an older friend hu would tell me. im 15 now n i can say i thnk i kno everythin ther is to kno (tho i havnt don it). rite around 11, im pretty sure he knoz bot it, hellooo! its 2007 freakin babies kno bout it lol.
Reply:well me and my friends started talking about it when we were 12 or 13 [something like that] haha. but there are questions on here about 10 yr olds getting pregnant and stuff like that.


I am 16 and I truly feel that parents should keep lines of communcation open and when needed just bluntly come out and talk about sex no matter how uncomforatable it is =]





good luck!! =]


♥Reagan♥
Reply:I'd say about the age of your son. At least thats when we started talking about in school. But I personally started talking to my parents/friends about it when I was eleven. I really hope this helps you out.
Reply:age 11 is about when you start hearing it. make sure you are watching over your pc. because porn is the first thing to get mentioned. i know from experience. around age 12-14 is when things start getting "detailed" and the start to learn new words and slag terms. when you feel he has a remedial understanding of sex, that's when you give him "the talk"
Reply:11 is a little young for him to be talking about it in a serious way, but his friends will probably joke about 'doing it' and stuff like that. you should bring it up with him now so he can learn about it from you instead of from his friends!
Reply:I'm going to wait until marriage.