Do you think teens nowadays give more concern to a person as an individual than Physical attraction?

I'm a teen myself. I give more concerns to who a person actually is, rather than physical attraction. I was wondering if this was the same thought that other teens have.





Because I have come across a few class mates who actuall "fell in love" the first day!! and a lot more incidents over the years. (You know what I mean). I was surpriced to see a few of them still on the same relation after highschool. But does that add a meaning to life?





This question is not related to love. But more to Teenage Psychology

Do you think teens nowadays give more concern to a person as an individual than Physical attraction?
Actually, I had to give it a lot of thought. The question isn't as simple as I thought. Yes, teens are "growing up" faster nowadays and yes, their sense of decision is getting better and better but, teens will always be teens.





When you think of the word "teen", what crosses your mind? Is it close to a lad roaming around in green meadows, fascinated by the newly introduced "life" to him-- trying to discover a path of his own? Or is it a notorious boy-- looking up girls' skirts, having a crush on the english teacher, bullying smaller kids?





I think it is a mix of both. Now, let's hold on to this thought and try to venture out in the female side of things--





What do you picture when I say-- "a teenage girl"? Is it the Cinderella waiting-for-the prince on a horse, dreaming about love, reading romantic novels girl next door? Or is it the overly frank, disrespectful, ill-mannered, spoilt, rebellious young lady who you cannot even dream of talking to even in your wildest of dreams?





I again think it is a mix of both-- rebellious yet soft-hearted, strong yet sensitive. That's teenage for you.





So, now coming to your question, yes, teens now have created more scales to "judge" people but, those scales are not necessarily better than those set by their past generations. Teenage will always be teenage, hormones will work and heart rates will go up- upon the sight of a visually-appealing figure.





Honestly, I'd be a liar if I say I don't care about looks or that I place good looks somewhere near the bottom of my list of criteria for a compatible partner.





Now, I guess I am landing in to a conclusion that I for long, wanted to avoid-- yes, it "depends". It depends on a person's upbringing, his/her social circuit, mentality and morality. A more sensible teen boy for example, might fall for a beautiful (but awful) girl but realise later that this is not the girl he wants to shower his unconditional love upon while a beauty-blinded chap won't give up on a relationship due to peer pressure or low self esteem.





But then again, love is a mutual affair. Teens may fall for someone with good looks but, to carry forward the affair, the other person also has to be "dumb-enough" to play along with them. However, a teen is easily flattered and is more likely to reciprocate with the same emotions but, I have seen a few girls turn down the shallow proposals so, all I can say is everybody's not the same.





Before closing, lemme share an instance with you-- In 11th standard, a beautiful young girl entered our classroom. She had the looks of a fairy and charm of a Goddess. All the eyes turned towards her as she walked down to take her seat. People started speculating and whispering... she was our new classmate. On first sight, almost all the boys fell in "love" with her but, as time passed and she became a regular face with all the human drawbacks and stuff, the infatuation(s) faded. People moved on and life went along. That observation of mine made me realise that infatuation is the beginning of love which thereafter, leads to two paths- obsession and true love.





Obsession is not love but it lingers for a long while. Teens are more likely to be obsessed with someone's charm than being in love with someone's personality.





Real love takes time.





P.S. Did you count your yawns while reading this answer? (lol)
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Reply:No, I think physical atraction still comes first
Reply:both
Reply:its more on looks lol.
Reply:the media (i.e. television, magazines, movies) is swamped by the "ideal woman". being perfect is unachieveable but many pop stars and acctresses and now even sports women (anna kournikova, the williams sisters..) are being sexified and made to look as perfect as possible through plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures (botox, restylane, porcelain veneers). so now girls are higher and unreasonable expectations of what she should like and is made to have low self esteem. some girls try to fix their low self esteem by getting attention from boys and boys are just horny. but over all, teenagers are very foolish at times. but there is no doubt our society is obsessed with looks.
Reply:I don't want to say all teens think the same way because some are like you who gives more concern to the individual and others are just concerned with the physical attraction.
Reply:You want my honest opinion? No they don't. But then, I happen to be a bit sheltered.
Reply:NO





Looks matter more to teens now than ever. When they grow up is when they become concerned with an individual's personality
Reply:I think most teens are immature and go for looks!Good for you!
Reply:NO WHY?
Reply:I think many teens do go for physical attraction more than who the person really is. However, many of us are more interested in the person rather than what they look like.
Reply:im 14 and trust me, i know exactly what you're talking about.





the whole "going out" (when not going anywhere) and the "in love" (because he/she is hott) dilema. its all so shalow and immature. everyone falls in love for looks and then ends up breaking up in about 1 week tops...but after highschool? i only know a few like that, and i believe that it is a form of love and affection.





i know adults who have married their high school sweethearts an are still together. i actually think its kinda cute. "incidents" im curious about, but overral high school is just weird!





i like people for personality, but you HAVE to admit that you've liked someone because their good looking, or you've wanted to impress them. its nothing to be ashamed of, its soooo normal.





physical attraction is more with guys than girls, but no matter what, everyone's shalow and going through the same thing.
Reply:NO, no....you got it backwards, physical appearance comes first